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The Little Things

Things have been a little tough lately…

For starters, we still haven’t found a very viable place to move to (in 39 days), and that is STRESSING me out! But, I’m trying to learn to be more go-with-the-flow, and relaxed about this because… in all probability, it will work out somehow.. (at least that’s what I’m telling myself lol).

Aside from that, I had really hoped that I might have health insurance by now. I’ve been actively engaged in making phone calls, filling out forms, looking up information, and asking questions, to try and get myself enrolled in health care since March… It’s looking like I might at least be close by now, but I’m still not there. A lot in my life kind of hinges on health care right now, I have some immediate dental issues that need addressing, the legal name change process apparently will be much easier for me once I have health insurance, and I can start thinking more seriously about hormones once I have health insurance! So, as you can imagine, I’m fairly anxious to finish jumping through all of the hoops and finally be enrolled!

I’m not really out about my gender identity at work so I’ve resigned myself to constantly being misgendered there. It’s nice though to have an affirming place to come home to where everyone knows my pronouns and identity and respects them. We were hanging out with some friends the other day who are very familiar with my gender identity and pronouns, but they kept accidentally slipping up and calling me “she”. They would of course correct themselves, but it still was kind of jarring… it always is kind of jarring to hear someone who definitely knows my pronouns misgender me, it begs the questions, “do you just really see me as a cis woman and just use my pronouns when you remember to?” And often I can tell people feel bad about slipping up and they trip all over themselves to correct it, and I don’t feel angry with them or anything, because I don’t feel like they are intentionally misgendering me to make me upset. But it does make me a little sad to think that people don’t actually recognize my gender identity.. I know it might not seem like a big deal, but it kind of is… at least to me…

I guess that’s all for now. Until next time..



Hey y’all,

So, again inspired by Janet Mock, this time by her appearance on The Colbert Report as well as this post I saw on tumblr where someone asks “what if everyone had personal pronouns?” (which, on a side note, everyone does have personal pronouns, just many people happen to have the same personal pronouns and I think maybe this person meant what if everyone had a different personal pronoun) and the blog answers it perfectly by saying: then we’d all be in the habit of telling each other about our personal pronouns when we meet and pronouns would no longer be an issue. As someone who has different personal pronouns than the normative he/him, she/her, I LOVE this idea! Even after 2 years or so of going by they/them I still never know when/how to bring it up to someone I’m meeting that my pronouns aren’t she/her or he/him. Sometimes people ask, and when done in an I-care-about-not-misgendering-you kind of way instead of a you-don’t-go-by-she/her-or-he/him?-what-kind-of-freak-are-you? kind of way, I love that! But many people don’t ask and therefore many people don’t know unless I ever feel close enough to them to tell them or someone outs me… So, a world in which first time introductions include your personal pronouns, sounds amazing. I hope it someday becomes a reality. Annnnnd, possibly moving us a little closer to that reality, Facebook now allows [some] custom gender identities and has added they/them pronouns! Granted Facebook still doesn’t have all gender identities represented let alone the myriad of pronouns not represented, but it’s a start! So yay!

Anyway, I guess that’s all I have for now. Happy Friday! Until next time..